How to Know If Your Child Is Just Struggling or Truly Has Dyslexia

When Struggles With Reading Feel Like More Than Just a Phase

Every parent who’s witnessed their child wrestle with homework—watching the clock tick as the page of math problems remains half-done—knows how hard it is not to worry. But when it comes to reading, that worry can become something deeper. You see your 8-year-old freeze every time they face a new word. Spelling tests feel like torture. Storytime becomes a source of tears, not joy. And in your gut, you wonder: is it just a tough year… or is something else going on?

Reading difficulties are incredibly common, especially in the early years of school. But how do you know what’s “normal” and what may be a sign of dyslexia or another learning difference? Let’s walk through what to watch for, the subtle signs many parents miss, and how to begin finding clarity—while supporting your child emotionally every step of the way.

The Difference Between a Temporary Struggle and Dyslexia

It’s natural for kids to have uneven development in school. Some may be strong in math but slow to read. Others might daydream their way through first grade and snap into focus by third. A difficult school year, a new teacher, or even the lingering effects of a stressful event (like moving or a family change) can all impact how your child performs in the classroom.

That said, there are patterns that may point to dyslexia rather than a passing phase. Dyslexia is not about intelligence or effort. It’s about the brain processing language in a different way. The signs can show up early—but they can also be confusing because no two cases look exactly the same.

Signs You Might Be Seeing More Than a Temporary Delay

Here are some signs that may suggest your child could benefit from a dyslexia screening:

• Your child avoids reading out loud—and when they do, they guess wildly at words or skip lines entirely.
• They have trouble remembering sight words like "the" or "was," even after repeated practice.
• Spelling seems illogical. "Friend" might become "frent," then "freind"—with no consistency.
• They can explain ideas verbally but struggle to write them down.
• Homework takes much longer than it should—and leads to exhaustion, frustration, or even meltdowns.

If these signs feel familiar, you’re not alone. Many parents ask us when to worry and what’s normal. The truth is, trust your instincts. You know your child better than anyone—and if something feels persistently off, it’s okay to explore further.

The Journey to Diagnosis: What That Really Looks Like

“Diagnosis” can be a scary word. Many parents fear labeling their child too early—or at all. But getting clarity doesn’t mean putting limits on your child. It means understanding how they learn so you can support them more effectively.

A dyslexia assessment usually starts with a conversation—with your child’s teacher, your pediatrician, or the school’s learning specialist. Formal evaluations may involve a psychologist or educational therapist, who uses standardized tests to look at reading, spelling, processing speed, and other skills. These assessments aren’t meant to put your child in a box. They’re a starting point for better understanding.

And if it turns out your child doesn’t have dyslexia? That’s valuable too. You still gain insight into how they think and learn best.

What Support Looks Like—And Why It’s Not One-Size-Fits-All

Whether your child is diagnosed with dyslexia or is simply a late bloomer, support matters. The earlier we adapt to their needs, the more confident and curious they stay. That might mean involving a tutor trained in multi-sensory learning methods. It might mean adjusting the pace of lessons. At home, it could look like more patient reading time, fewer expectations around spelling, or using creative learning tools tailored to your specific child.

Some kids absorb stories far better through sound than text. For auditory learners, turning stubborn reading passages into audio stories can transform the experience. The Skuli App, for example, can convert your child’s written lessons into audio adventures where they become the hero of the story—using their own first name to draw them in and build motivation.

Small adjustments like this can go a long way in building confidence. You're not trying to "fix" your child—you're giving them access to tools that help them thrive in their own way.

Healing the Relationship Between Your Child and Reading

If reading has become a battleground in your home, it’s time to rebuild that relationship. This means stepping away from pressure and focusing instead on connection and joy. Pick books that make your child laugh. Read together while cuddled up in bed. Let your child listen to audiobooks during car rides. These small moments help repair what may have become a sore spot.

Need help finding titles that won’t frustrate your child? Our guide to best books for dyslexic children can point you toward accessible, empowering stories that nurture a love for reading—in whatever form that takes.

You Are Not Behind. You Are on the Path.

It’s okay not to have all the answers yet. The fact that you’re reading this is a sign of your care, your dedication, and your willingness to try. Whether your child is dealing with temporary struggles or a deeper learning difference, they are not broken. They are capable, creative, and deserving of support that truly sees them.

As you continue learning—with your child and for your child—you might want to explore more about how to support focus in the classroom, discover small changes at home that reduce frustration, or try reading exercises for dyslexic learners that actually work. You’re not on this journey alone—and neither is your child.